Yes, I admit that getting first place in something that you have worked so hard to achieve is the best feeling ever, it doesn’t happen often. This week I have heard a lot of people say that “there is always going to be someone better than you” which is true for almost everybody. But winning doesn’t always mean first place. I was at a Women in Sports conference earlier in the year and one of the speakers was an olympic swimmer. She had a few different medals but she was most proud of her silver medal. She had a gold medal and she was most proud of her silver medal?!? I was surprised a too. But she explained that it while she loved her gold medal too, she learned a lot when she received 2nd place. Often 2nd place is thought of as “first loser” and has a bad connotation, but look at it this way. She was 2nd in the world in her event for swimming. She got a medal, she got all of these wonderful experiences and she was happy and proud of her medal. This reminded me of the movie Rocky with Sylvester Stallone. It is a great movie that i recommend everyone watch. In the movie, Rocky doesn’t win the fight, but he is still happy and he feels like he won. He has his girlfriend and all of his friends and he lasted longer than anyone could with the heavyweight champion. Although he did not win, he knows in his eyes that he did, and that is what is important. I think that the definition of winning is to do better than you did yesterday, is it improving yourself and not necessarily being stronger or faster than someone else. Rocky also believes he wins because of his girlfriend. They both love each other so much. What i took from this is that it doesn’t matter whether you win or lose, as long as there is love in your life, you are always a winner. It is said that losing builds character and I firmly believe that. When we lose a game my coach always says that it’s okay to be angry and mad, but don’t regret anything that you did or didn’t do. He says to let the spark within you stay there and use the anger that is built up inside to do better the next time. Like one of the sayings in the optimist creed: Promise yourself to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. You can’t win every game but you can keep improving yourself so that in your eyes you are a winner and you are proud of yourself because that is all that matters.
Don’t forget to smile! 🙂